So this weeks episode of Dirty Talk Dating went live and we talked about “Red Lights” and “Green Lights.” What we talked about was essentially the steps that we want to take as humans to get other people to like us — to let us into their world. For some people that might mean getting out of the friend zone and for others that might just mean a crazy one night romp.
I started thinking about it today and I’m beginning to think the more pertinent discussion is how to refrain from getting a red light after the green light has been lit. And also, understanding the signs and if you’re reading the lights correctly.
Several weeks ago I met a beautiful and very down-to-earth girl at a mixer. We chatted, joked a lot, talked about Justin Bieber — you know, important 2012 stuff! Before the night was over, I asked her for her number and told her that I wanted to see her again. With zero hesitation she entered her number in my phone and we made plans to hang. I was genuinely excited!
By her choice we hung out a mere two days later. Huge green light, right? We had a lot of fun with each other doing outdoor things, had a great dinner at one of her favorite spots and then ended up having drinks at a familiar bar. It was at that bar where we eventually told one another that we were into the each other and that this needs to happen again. Green light.
We made out like teens and it was a great way to end an awesome night. Completely thrilled with how everything went down, I had no problem texting her the next day to let her know that. She reciprocated the feeling and we continued chatting throughout the next couple of days. All green so far, right? Right!
Then, the attempts to hang out again were very one sided. Granted, it had only been a week or so, but the first hangout lasted all day and we had a lot of fun. SO, here’s where it gets tricky…..
I’m not sure if this is a red light or not. And if so, how did it come about? I know she is busy. Very busy. That’s totally cool with me and I prefer to date a girl who has her own schedule! I, too, am a very busy person with a lot of plates spinning at once. We still text each other from time to time and it’s always very friendly. She’s mentioned that she wants to hang out again — just the two of us — but hasn’t made it happen.
So as I mentioned before, I think the more important thing to try to figure out is how you go from nothing but green to seemingly red. And more importantly than that, how to avoid it! I’ve left the ball in her court and I hope she wants to see me again. If not, I hope we can at least be friends. Shes pretty fucking cool and from my home state! If I have the opportunity again, I’m thinking sober activities lasting much less than 8 hours…. :)